MASSAGE AND SEX – NOT INTENDED FOR SEXUAL AROUSAL
(If you are after sex please go straight somewhere else)
Although the word “massage” has been used as a convenient cover-up for illicit sex, Massage Therapy – as a health profession – is never intended to provide a sexual experience any more than a gynaecological examination, a prostate examination, or a discussion of sexuality between patient and sex therapist is intended to lead to sexual involvement between client and therapist. And while sexuality is an important aspect of the human experience – something that should be widely researched and responsibly discussed around the world – the boundaries of sex and sexuality lie outside the realm of any professional-quality massage practice. Mistakenly and so sadly, consumers of illicit sex are often led to believe that massage therapists are only happy to put up with the sex needs of their clients. Most massage therapists, however, couldn’t be further from practicing massage with some kind of an underlying sexual agenda. Caring, creative individuals, typically with a liberal arts background, they bring an active interest in natural health and humanity to the profession. Fortunately, for the growing number of people who now routinely make massage appointments for rehab as well as for stress-reduction and prevention – such ethical boundaries are self-evident. Even (or especially) when massage is indicated for the treatment of a sexual problem or for recovery from sexual trauma, the professional boundaries remain clear and unequivocal. Massage Therapy is not intended for sexual arousal whatsoever. While massage involves the manipulation of soft tissue, it does not involve the client’s or patient’s private parts. Private body parts should be covered by a sheet, a towel, or by the client’s clothes at all times. Indeed, most people understand that they cannot act on a sexual urge regardless of the circumstances under which such urge occurs. If you’ve read nothing else on this website, please be aware that sexual behaviour between client and massage therapist – physical, or even verbal, or even by gestures only – is unacceptable. Regardless of who initiates it, when sexual behaviour occurs – even if consensual – a clear breach of the professional ethical code occurs. A professional relationship no longer exists. And when sexual behaviour is imposed on either massage therapist or client – a potentially damaging violation of personal boundaries and psychological autonomy has occurred. Mental health experts agree that, in general, an individual who feels compelled to break work-related boundaries is likely to come with the emotional baggage of low-self esteem and control problems. And understanding such emotional problems doesn’t make an inappropriate sexual behaviour more acceptable. Whether during the massage session or even just via phone inquiries, professional-quality massage therapists – like other health professionals – have every right to work without the nuisance and abuse of the misguided sexual intentions of perpetrating, misinformed individuals.(If you are after sex please go straight somewhere else)
In case of inappropriate behaviour in Dublin Holistic Massage Centre – session will be ended and full payment will be expected.